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I did do some experimenting, but using a bottle of poppers was already super exciting, so I was very “green”. I had no idea what other exhilarating stuff people get into; it seems like I am rather partial to some male sex toys action.  

Freedom is in the mind.

After all my soul-searching about who I was, I started to feel a certain freedom within myself, but, to start with, that did not translate to the bedroom. I was struggling with my self-image and confidence. This often resulted in me not getting what I wanted from an encounter. 

The use of room aromas did lose my inhibitions a little, but I did not want to rely on that. It was not until I met a slightly older guy who took his time, asked me questions, and showed an interest in me as a person rather than seeing me just as a hook-up. 

There is nothing wrong with a lust-orientated hook-up, but I have only recently started to enjoy them. Having the time with someone I trusted, who was patient and not only after a quick fix for himself, allowed me to come out of my shell. In the end, the realisation was that freedom is in the mind.

Getting to a point where you feel powerful enough to accept yourself, what you like, and, for me, also how I look, is what it can take to feel the confidence to play in a way that is good for you. 

The new me!  

I am now a good year further and have had several mind-blowing encounters in which I felt strong enough to make suggestions that would make the experience even better for me.

Not everything I suggest is agreed with, of course, but if you don’t try, you don’t get it. One of the things I enjoy is wearing a cock sheath when I am topping a guy. For some reason, it makes me feel powerful, and that is something I enjoy.

Another thing my body seems to like is nipple play; I was not aware of this until someone asked if it was OK to use some nipple suckers on him. This was fine with me but asked if I could try some also. Oh, my goodness, how sensitive my nipples are; it surprised me. Besides enjoying an array of activities, I never heard of, the main thing that has changed is that I now communicate a lot better.

I no longer feel ashamed to ask for something that I enjoy and equally important; I am also listening to my sexual partners and what they want. Listening has resulted in me learning a lot and it has opened doors to fetishes I am now a big fan of. Who knew that humiliation good be fun in the bedroom?  Only when agreed upon, of course.

Sexual freedom can cost!

Now, most of these adult adventures are free but can still cost money. I mean, the amount of anal lube I go through is insane, and I am partial to poppers, and they don’t grow on trees. My interest in male sex toys is also something I need to plan around payday, but for me, it is all money well spent. 

These days toys are of such high quality that they last for a long time and will provide you with hours and hours of pleasure. It does not have to cost an arm and a leg, either. I have listed 2 stores below where you will find amazing deals and high-quality gear. They have a huge collection, so all you have to do is select what floats your boat and start your sexual freedom journey. 

I hope you will have an amazing time exploring!

Shops for all your gear are: for all your adult tools & gear for strong poppers

With Love,

Brendan in association with esmale.  


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