At the centre of Friend of Dorothy is founder Oliver James, whose focus is simple: rebuild real-world connection between gay men at a time when it’s quietly disappearing.
“We’ve built a culture where it’s easier to scroll than to show up,” he says. “Friend of Dorothy exists to change that — to make meeting other gay men feel natural again, not intimidating.”
The May line-up sits within a wider vision for the brand, one that goes beyond products or content and instead looks at how gay men actually meet, connect, and build community today. For many, that’s become increasingly difficult. Conversations start on apps and often end there. Plans are made, then dropped. Nights out feel less social than they used to.
This programme is designed as a response to that shift.
At the centre of the month is a screening of A Friend of Dorothy at Clapham Picturehouse, followed by a live Q&A with director Lee Knight. It sets the tone for the wider programme, bringing people together around a shared cultural moment and giving them a reason to stay, talk, and connect afterwards.
Elsewhere, the events are built around shared activity as a way to remove pressure from socialising. A graffiti workshop offers something hands-on and collaborative. A rooftop flower arranging session provides a more relaxed setting that still encourages conversation. A visit to the Crystal Maze LIVE Experience leans into group dynamics, where interaction happens naturally through teamwork.
For those who prefer something more low-key, a guided tasting at Renegade Wine Bar offers a smaller, more conversational environment. The kind where people can settle in, talk properly, and get to know each other without the usual noise of a crowded bar.
The programme also extends outdoors, with kayaking and paddleboarding experiences along London’s canals. These smaller group settings are designed to make it easier for people to join alone and still feel part of something.
“The goal isn’t to force connection,” James says. “It’s to create the kind of environment where it happens naturally.”
Each event is intentionally structured around smaller groups and a low-pressure atmosphere. Most attendees come on their own. The format does the work for them.
Many of the events are subsidised to keep them accessible, with proceeds supporting wider community initiatives and partners including Impulse London.
For James, the idea goes beyond a monthly schedule.
“We don’t need another place to message,” he says. “We need spaces to meet.”
In a city like London, where it’s easy to feel both busy and disconnected, Friend of Dorothy is building something simple but increasingly rare: spaces where people can show up, meet, and leave feeling part of something.
What’s Coming Up
Friend of Dorothy — London Events Series
Where: Across London
When: Weekly (new events added regularly)
Tickets: From £5 (subsidised)
For more details and to book Friend of Dorothy Events visit https://friend-of-dorothy.com
